Y'know… back when I was in college, I took my friend Tonya out for drinks with some of my college friends. I liked them all a lot, and I wanted them to meet each other. So, when we arrived at the appointed bar, I introduced her around to the five folks who were already there. And then I spent the rest of the evening embarrassed and slightly horrified.
See, Tonya was fat. Not "plump" or "a little chubby". She was seriously overweight. And three out of my five friends we met up with almost completely ignored her. It pretty much ended up with myself & Tonya talking at one end of the table, with Mike and Barclay occasionally joining in, while the other three carried on as though we weren't there. They'd never treated me like I was invisible before, but I guess talking to me while pointedly ignoring her would have been too rude even by their standards?
At any rate, when I saw Tonya the next night, she said hi and inquired as to the severity of my hangover. I then proceeded to launch into a ginormous, rambling apology … "I am SO sorry for last night! I don't know what the hell their problem was! I've never seen them be so rude before…" etc., etc. Tonya looked at me funny for a minute, and then started laughing. She thought it was cute that I was actually surprised. Apparently, as a fat woman, she got that kind of treatment all the time.
To this day, I find it all ridiculously offensive. But at the same time, I find the whole fat acceptance/fat positive 'movement' (if it's even organized enough to be called a movement) equally ridiculous. I mean, come ON people. There's a virtual epidemic of type 2 diabetes in the US. Almost a third of Americans are clinically obese (over half are "overweight"). These two things are connected. And yet people argue that obesity should be considered all happy and normal and acceptable and good?! Are you fucking kidding me?
Yes, yes, I understand there is a variety of different natural, healthy body types. I realize that fashion models and famous actresses are hardly representative of what normal, healthy women's bodies look like. I know that insecure, depressed, emotionally fragile young women fall prey to eating disorders while trying to reach some unattainable physical "ideal", thinking if they can, they'll magically become happy. Yes, this is all bad. But trying to convince people that 300+ pound nudes are sexy pin up models is really not the way to combat it.
And yeah, of course we never know why someone might be overweight. It's unfair to paint all fat people with the same "compulsive over eater" brush. Who knows? They MIGHT have a Thyroid Problem!
Yes, they damn well might. I should know. I went from a 135# model-skinny chick who could eat anything she wanted to a 199# moody bitch who couldn't lose weight on a 1500 calorie per day diet thanks to my fucked up thyroid. And I KNOW it can be next to impossible to find a doctor who will treat your thyroid problem effectively enough to allow you to once again lose weight like a normal, healthy person. And I KNOW that even when you're properly treated, losing weight is still a bitch, because it took more than two years with a good medication regimen, to achieve and maintain a clinically "healthy" weight of 155 (and I have small bones, I'm still plenty jiggly around the middle).
But still, the percentage of obese people who have thyroid problems is small, and even those folks can prevent themselves from becoming circus-freak-size. The number of people with medical problems that make it genuinely impossible to control their weight? I honestly don't know if there even is such a thing. People who think that celebrating "all body types" is doing anyone a favor, if you include the morbidly obese, are fucking morons. Encouraging people to accept obesity as normal is every bit as unhealthy as pushing girls into starving themselves.
Yes, women can be healthy at a size 14, if they're reasonably tall. But once you start pushing past the size 16 mark, I have a serious problem believing it's your "natural body type", or that you're a truly "healthy" person. And men naturally tend to have LOWER body fat than women, so if you're one of those guys whose gut overlaps your belt buckle, that is not a "body type", it's just gross. Seriously people, when your weight gets to the point that it causes joint strain problems? EAT LESS! And if eating less doesn't help, SEE A FUCKING DOCTOR! I did. It's great. My BMI is now at the high end of "Normal" rather than the low end of "Obese" & I can once again sit cross-legged without my feet going numb!
If you're not willing to do what it takes to keep your body in a normal, healthy weight range, be prepared to pay the price. No, I don't mean the social price. Nobody should be treated like a non-person because of their weight. But don't expect to be able to buy clothes in the newest, coolest styles (and don't be surprised if your clothes cost more … they use more fabric). And yes, goddamnit, if your ass is so fucking big you do not fit into a single seat on an airliner, you fucking well should have to buy tickets for two seats. You use two seats, you pay for two seats. Charging people for the amount of room they're actually taking up is not discrimination, it's charging passengers per seat, which is what airlines do.
Now, I know some people are going to read this and freak the fuck out. I'm being "size-ist" or something. But seriously, being obese isn't healthy any more than anorexia is healthy. I'm not saying "sk1nny ppl r00l, F@† ppl dr00l" or anything mindlessly oversimplified. I'm saying maybe the morbidly obese woman I saw at the grocery store should not have been buying a shopping cart full of microwave dinners and chips and a case of soda. The stripper I once worked with who was so thin you could count her vertebrae probably also should have been eating more than two plain bagels a day (and probably should not have been vomiting them up afterwards).
I once saw an anorexia porn site. It was one of the most gawdawful disturbing things I've ever seen on the internet (and that's saying A LOT). It was disturbing because it was glorifying a seriously unhealthy physical standard. I mean, some of these girls would not have looked a bit out of place if you dubbed them into a concentration camp photo. It was fucking horrible. EVERYONE (except the sick fucks beating off over the starving models, and the mentally unhinged girls themselves) would agree that anorexia porn is horrible. So why should it OK to do "BBW" porn and/or pin-up photography, glamorizing women whose ankles haven't seen the light of day in years?
Why is there an activist community rallying around the idea that excessively HIGH body weight should be accepted and celebrated, when morbid obesity is horribly unhealthy too? Type 2 diabetes. Heart disease. Sleep apnea. Mobility problems. Liver disease. Higher rates of cancer. COME THE FUCK ON HERE, PEOPLE! HEALTHY should be attractive. Not obese. Not underweight. There is a range of body sizes considered healthy… it's NOT One Size Fits All, and I know that… but XXXL is not the size anyone ought to be.
Here's a nice little site with a detailed Body Mass Index calculator: Find out if you're fat! Or better yet, buy one of those fancy-pants electronic scales that measures the electrical impedance of your body, to eliminate the whole "big boned/small boned" issue from the calculations.Tags: food, greed, morality, people, taboo