We NEED abortion rights, goddamnit.
I've been volunteering with Planned Parenthood leading up to our primary election, trying to make sure teen girls have access to abortion services if they need them. I've also been reading up about the Obama administration's cowardly bullshit maneuver excluding abortion coverage from the temporary federal high-risk insurance pools. Oh, and also making note of the fact that the woman-hating asshole contingent in Congress is trying to get birth control coverage blocked from the eventual shadow of health insurance reform we'll theoretically be getting (unless it all gets overturned after the midterm elections). I've been getting a little pissed about everything, taken as a whole… and if I hadn't been so busy trying to get a good stoplight cellphone photo of the bumpersticker in front of me in traffic today, I just may have suffered a wee little bit of road rage:
Apparently the concept of "endangered species" is a little too advanced for you?
When you look at the family planning policy ideas of the fuckwit-Right, all together, it is the biggest pile of woman-hating bullshit you've ever seen. Apparently, we are all supposed to join the Quiverfull movement, and start pumping out child soldiers for Jesus's glorious army, or become nuns. They don't want us getting comprehensive sex education in school, because we're supposed to not have sex until marriage. They don't want us getting birth control from our health insurance, because maybe it promotes fornication? Although having Viagra coverage is OK, because… um… fornication is OK if it's male-initiated? Maybe? And DEAR FUCKING HOLY JEEEZIS we are NOT supposed to have abortions, when our total ignorance about birth control—combined with our restricted access thereto—leads to the inevitable pregnancy.
Women are apparently not supposed to have sex unless we want to have babies, period.
I realize there are folks out there who are opposed to abortion, who—sensibly—also support access to and education about birth control. And that's just lovely, considering birth control is the most commonly used method of preventing abortion. Don't even talk to me about fucking abstinence. Sure, keeping your legs crossed is the most reliable way of preventing pregnancy, but I happen to live in a world full of horny humans who are, by and large, not good about not having sex when they really want to. And also a world full of women who sometimes get raped or sexually abused by the men around them, and sometimes end up knocked up that way too. So fuck you and your abstinence crap, OK?
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: There can be no full equality for women in society without the right to FULL CONTROL over our reproductive systems. If a woman can't control her pregnancies, she can't control her career advancement. If a woman can't control how many children she has, she can't control her long term finances, housing options, etc. And let's not forget a very important point that always gets glossed over in this debate: If a woman has to worry about getting pregnant every time she has sex, how do you think that's going to affect her sexual enjoyment?
But of course, that is the point, isn't it? To paraphrase the president of a very, very creepy organization, the anti-abortion zealots are trying to "change the culture". No, really. (Check out your state/local area, and see if you don't have a nest of these vipers in your neighborhood!) Apparently, by forcing women to be pregnant when they'd rather not be, such a wonderful and magical benefit will be conferred to our society, it will more than make up for fucking women over like that. Because really, in these people's estimation, it doesn't take much to make up for fucking over women.
Restricting women's reproductive control is NOT going to magically return us to a Father Knows Best fantasy land of happy housewives and manly men bringing home the bacon. That world never existed. If women end up pregnant when they don't want to be, and don't have access to abortion, they do dangerous things. They stab their cervixes with pencils, so they don't have to go to their parents to get permission for a safe abortion. They pay people to beat the shit out of them in hopes of inducing a miscarriage. They go online to find advice on how to induce miscarriage with toxic plants and pills of unknown origin. They end up hospitalized, and they end up dead.
And frankly, if you're trying to tell me this* is more important than the health and happiness of a grown woman, you are an evil bastard:
9 week embryo shown
approx. life size (~1in.)
Yes. I said happiness. I think a woman's happiness is more important than an embryo's existence. Hell, I'll even say her health, WEALTH and happiness is. Because you know what? An unthinking, unfeeling blob of tissue, which is still 100% dependent on the woman's womb for its survival, is NOT as important as ANY of those things, unless the woman who owns that womb DECIDES it is. Life, liberty and the pursuit of fucking happiness is right in the Declaration of Independence, folks. And rarely do the frothing anti-abortion hordes admit it, but abortion was really quite common back then, such as it was. It wasn't until the 1800s that anti-abortion laws became widespread (and enforced). [Source]
Thats fucking right. During the holy era of the founding fathers, women got abortions. Many of them legal, many others against the letter of rarely enforced laws. Oddly, the very 'fathers' the Christian Right likes to wave around like patron saints didn't see fit to mention this affront to god and morality while they were writing up all those founding documents—of course, they forgot to mention god anywhere in the Constitution too, so I guess they were a little disorganized? (And YET! Even with abortions all willy-nilly over the place! Somehow, the not-yet-United States still produced enough white people to destroy all the native cultures we came across.)
And just to make sure I get my point across on the sex thing: Fuck the abstinence bullshit. Women deserve to have sex when they want—and to enjoy it when they do—without having to pop out kids afterward. Fuck all the slut-shaming, chastity & abstinence bullshit the anti-abortion Jesus-humpers are always throwing around, and fuck all the cowards on the pro-choice side who will NEVER say that out loud.
*In 2006, 78.9% of abortions occurred by the 9th week of pregnancy. 88% occurred by the 12th week [Source]. So, if you want to talk about abortions that happen after the fetus's nervous system is fully developed, go ahead… but they hardly EVER happen. There never was a holocaust of "partial-birth" abortions, with innocent babies being ripped limb from limb by satan-doctors. And for the mid-to-late term abortions that do happen, there's compelling research suggesting fetuses aren't conscious enough to feel pain while they're in the womb, even after their nervous system is developed enough to be fully functional [Source (at bottom of page)].
Couldn't have said it better myself
13th August 2010 at 8:45 pm | permalink |Fuckin' A. What she said.
14th August 2010 at 1:41 am | permalink |Well stated. The thing that always baffles me in this argument is the stance that it's not about the women who don't get a choice, it's about the little bitty babies that must be protected. Over time I've refined my argument to "People who have already been born get first dibs." I don't think it persuades many people, but at least it cuts to the chase.
14th August 2010 at 6:59 am | permalink |At any rate, enjoyed reading your rant, as always.
@Rox1SMF & haggis: Thanks.
@Celestina: What I especially love is how they're all about the fetuses, but most of the anti-abortion fucks in Congress are totally AGAINST funding federal programs to help low-income infants & children (or prenatal care for low-income pregnant women). Seriously, it's not even about the little bitty babies… the assholes couldn't give a fuck about women OR children, just fetuses & embryos.
14th August 2010 at 11:59 am | permalink |The headline says it all.
As someone who is childless by choice, I do like to think of myself as more than a stylishly-dressed womb.
I want to have sex. I do protect myself. But shit happens, and unwanted children don't have to.
Bravo!
18th August 2010 at 10:10 pm | permalink |@Hanna: Wait! Didn't you know women like us, who don't want children, are damaged in the head, and the best thing for us would be if we were forced to reproduce? Then our mommy instincts would magically awaken, and we'd be Real, Fulfilled Women!
We just don't know what we're missing… duh!
19th August 2010 at 2:18 pm | permalink |Now you have Antonin Scalia saying that women aren't protected by the U.S. Constitution.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/time/08599202066700
What a douchebag.
23rd September 2010 at 4:41 am | permalink |Well he's what, 74 years old now? Maybe it's senility talking? Either way, at least he shouldn't be around much longer.
23rd September 2010 at 1:28 pm | permalink |You murdered me and owe me an apology!
See you in hell.
16th October 2010 at 10:10 pm | permalink |It's really simple, if you are against abortion, don't have one!
17th October 2010 at 9:18 am | permalink |I love how insurance companies won't pay for birth control, but they hand out viagra like candy.
@abortedbaby: Oddly, I had my abortion before the embryo had brainwaves… soooo, I'm assuming you're a psycho judgemental fraud. Sorry abortedbaby, you failed to make me feel like shit. AND, in response to your off-topic comment on my other post (which I deleted for being offtopic), I did not have an abortion yesterday, and I'm pretty sure legal medical clinics don't flush medical waste down the toilet. So, in summary, go fuck yourself.
18th October 2010 at 3:19 am | permalink |@Mari: The birth control v. viagra thing really is a wonder of hypocritical conundrums, isn't it? lol
18th October 2010 at 3:19 am | permalink |The least you could have done was eat me.
http://stuff.ubersite.com/116546644988617038/1/babies…%20it's%20whats%20for%20dinner.JPG
19th October 2010 at 12:48 pm | permalink |One of the bible beaters who "gets it" is Ashley Judd. She works with PSI.org to help women in 3rd world countries better plan their families. They have everything from birth control to abortions to family planning beads. (for countries which do not allow abortions or birth control measures for women.)
Her message is simple: by allowing a woman to plan her family, she can better care for the children she has, as well as better care for herself.
By allowing women to plan, you help eliminate poverty.
19th October 2010 at 1:58 pm | permalink |Forgot to say, PSI.org also has health clinics to care for women and children…a luxury in third world countries that most women do not have access to.
Why would anyone want to stop funding to such programs? It baffles me…
19th October 2010 at 2:01 pm | permalink |@grnidone: OMG!!! THINK OF THE BAAAAAYYYY-BEEEEEEES!!! Never mind the women themselves, or the well-being of their other children. Lord knows the well-being of a goddamn embryo totally trumps all that shit.
@abortedbaby: I'm all in favor of allowing you to make an ass of yourself on my site, no problem, but I WILL delete off-topic comments on other posts. And if I end up having to delete many more of them, I will just ban you from the site for being a pain in my ass.
Also, as long as you're trolling my site, at least learn enough html to post a working link, for fuck's sake.
19th October 2010 at 2:44 pm | permalink |Okay mommy. I am so sorry for saying you aborted me out of greed, was totally off topic.
I know you aborted me for my own good and I won't forget it!
19th October 2010 at 8:07 pm | permalink |And yeah, sorry again, mom, I didn't know I posted a bad link.
You should have aborted me a little later, so my brain waves had time to develop.
Sigh.
http://janelllaaa.tumblr.com/post/335176693/chinese-eat-baby-soup-for-sex
19th October 2010 at 8:13 pm | permalink |@abortedbaby: OK, one more "or else you're getting banned" rule. The mom/mommy shit is just stupid. Seriously. Either call me by my username, or GTFO.
20th October 2010 at 4:31 pm | permalink |Teaching childeren that abstinence is NOT an option is just as absurd as teaching that it is the ONLY option.
You shouldn't prop up your straw-man arguments by citing the obscure ramblings of fringe groups. So a very small percent of the populace are in favor of abstinence only education. So a very few people are against contraceptives. So a very few people don't believe in abortion under any circumstances.
The fact is, MOST people are against abstinence only education, therefore, we don't teach it.
MOST of the people believe that contraceptives are safe and effective, therefore, they are legal.
MOST people support abortion in cases of rape and incest, or where the life of the mother is in jeopardy, therefore it is (at least somewhat) legal.
But that's not the real argument here is it? What you're really trying to say is that YOU want ME to pay for the consequences of YOUR actions. If it feels good, do it. I mean, you're just a weak willed woman. How can society possibly expect you to resist your body's urges. So you made a risky decision and had unprotected sex. It's not like you could possibly get pregnant, and even if you do, it's just a pesky little lump of undeveloped tissue. Nothing more than a tumor really, and who likes tumors? I tell you what. I'm not going to be a part of a society that forces poor women to carry around a tumor for nine months just because she couldn't afford a 75 cent condom or a $20 prescription of birth control. Go ahead. Bang anything that moves. It is my most basic civic duty to pay for you tumor removal proceedure.
25th October 2010 at 10:07 am | permalink |"Teaching childeren that abstinence is NOT an option is just as absurd as teaching that it is the ONLY option."
I never said anyone should be taught that abstinence is NOT an option.
Also, women sometimes get pregnant when their partners use condoms. They also sometimes get pregnant when they are using diaphragms or cervical caps. They can even (very rarely) get pregnant after having an IUD implanted.
And, I'll just cut and paste this, since you obviously didn't read thoroughly enough to catch it the first or second time I said it: "And just to make sure I get my point across on the sex thing: Fuck the abstinence bullshit. Women deserve to have sex when they want—and to enjoy it when they do—without having to pop out kids afterward. Fuck all the slut-shaming, chastity & abstinence bullshit the anti-abortion Jesus-humpers are always throwing around, and fuck all the cowards on the pro-choice side who will NEVER say that out loud."
Apparently I also need to add to that, "Fuck all the soulless Rand-worshipping morons who honestly think 'Every man for himself' is a decent, moral way to run a society."
25th October 2010 at 1:56 pm | permalink |I am not sure I even want to hear about this topic from someone who hasn't ever had a functioning uterus, William.
25th October 2010 at 3:42 pm | permalink |alphabitch,
Come on now. You can't be contradicting yourself in the same statement.
"I never said anyone should be taught that abstinence is NOT an option."
"And just to make sure I get my point across on the sex thing: Fuck the abstinence bullshit. Women deserve to have sex when they want—and to enjoy it when they do—without having to pop out kids afterward."
alphabitch, I'm not a woman. I don't presume to be able to sit here and preach to you about the pros and cons of rearing childeren. I don't consider myself the authority to tell you wether or not you should have a kid. What I will say is that I don't think people should be able to have abortions on demand for the sake of sheer inconvenience. If you don't want to have a child, I don't think you should abstain from sex. The technology exists to prevent pregnancy at the rate of %99.98, so 2 in 10,000 will get pregnant. If you have done all that you can to have safe sex and still end up preggo, I think that an abortion should be a tough, but viable option. That said, sex is still your choice so you can pay for the consequences yourself.(I don't oppose child support and I would agree that the male should pay half of any approved abortion.)
Now cover you ears and eyes alphabitch.
Mari,
FUCK YOU AND YOUR UTERUS! You have absolutely no ability to procreate life with out male assistance, yet you pretend to be the only authority to end it. How do you know that the dick you drunkenly rode home from the bar dosen't want his child. How can you make that decision by yourself. That's his kid too, you selfish cum-recepticle. The more you speak, the more I am swayed to the idea of retro-abortions.
26th October 2010 at 3:20 pm | permalink |OK, my bad on the imprecise wording. What I suppose that should have said, for the benefit of the nitpickers of the world, is, "Fuck the abstinence-only-education bullshit." Because seriously, NO FUCKING SHIT, really, not having sex prevents pregnancy?!
I mean, really, that shouldn't even need to be taught, but I am certainly NOT opposed to sex ed teachers saying, "Now, of course, the only 100% effective way to prevent pregnancy and STIs is by not having sex." I mean, really. Of fucking course that should be said, if only for the sake of making sure the bleeding obvious has been covered.
And you know what? Nobody (at least nobody sane) is running around using abortion as a casual method of birth control. Nobody is using abortion just for convenience sake. You know what? They suck. It hurts bad enough to make you break out into a sweat and hyperventilate. I guess some women even pass out. And then you get cramps for DAYS afterward, just for extra fun value. Abortions IS CURRENTLY a "tough, but viable" option, and it will never be anything else.
And who are you, or anyone else, to tell a woman, "No, you didn't try hard enough to avoid getting knocked up, so you don't get an abortion,"?! There were other women in the waiting room when I went in for mine, and not one of them looked happy about it. Hell, most of them looked downright miserable. None of them went over their options and thought, "Hey, I'd WAY rather have an abortion than use a condom."
And as for Mari and her uterus? Fuck the hypothetical dude who knocked the hypothetical woman up. If he didn't want to risk his pre-cognizant offspring being aborted, maybe he should only be having sex with women who promise not to abort any accidental embryos.
The ability to squirt some semen into someone's vaginal canal hardly equals automatic lease-option rights on her uterus. Until women can opt to have the embryo transplanted into the guy's body, I don't see where the sperm-donor has any say so over whether she carries their accident to term or not.
26th October 2010 at 3:41 pm | permalink |You are making an awful lot of assumptions here. I am not even going to get into all of the name-calling. I think that a woman has the right to do what she wants with her body, period. I am only an authority regarding my own body. I would never presume to tell someone else what to do with their body.
26th October 2010 at 3:43 pm | permalink |'The ability to squirt some semen into someone's vaginal canal hardly equals automatic lease-option rights on her uterus. Until women can opt to have the embryo transplanted into the guy's body, I don't see where the sperm-donor has any say so over whether she carries their accident to term or not.'
What a load of bullshit. You think you have the right to hold a partner's future and finances at your whim based on the 'It's my body' line and supposed be-all-end-all nature of that particular whine? That one went away the moment you invited a penis into it, chick… don't like it? Keep your legs closed, you irresponsible slut.
16th November 2010 at 12:46 am | permalink |Well, I dunno, I think your right to bitch about child support ended when you unzipped. If you're worried about your "future and finances," keep it in your pants, you irresponsible slut.
Responsibility works both ways, bitch.
16th November 2010 at 5:20 am | permalink |'Responsibility works both ways, bitch.'
Thanks for making my point for me, you dumb cunt masquerading as some sort of post-modern blog rebel.
16th November 2010 at 5:27 am | permalink |Your grasp of rhetorical logic is both epic and intimidatingly subtle.
May I reiterate? Yes, I may… If you're worried about child support, birth control OR abortion, keep it in your pants & quit trying to blame women for your shit.
Or, are you trying to say women are supposed to have more self control than men? Or are women somehow just magically more responsible for getting knocked up than the man who squirted the sperm that met the egg?
Study basic logic and get back to me on that.
16th November 2010 at 5:48 am | permalink |"May I reiterate? Yes, I may… If you're worried about child support, birth control OR abortion, keep it in your pants & quit trying to blame women for your shit.
Or, are you trying to say women are supposed to have more self control than men? Or are women somehow just magically more responsible for getting knocked up than the man who squirted the sperm that met the egg?"
You can't seriously be as dumb as you're making yourself look while trying to present yourself as some witty observer of a world that just doesn't understand, yadda yadda yadda.
Shared responsibility is a great thing, and it's entirely justifiable, and ignorant cunts like you try to rip it away from men (who you derisively refer to as 'sperm donors') when it suits your purposes ('IT'S MY BODYYYYYY!1!!!11!'), basically having all the control and deciding consequences for two or three people based on the decision of one. The situation was created by two people, not one, and whether it's your body or not, you don't have the right to abuse the sanctity of same to control another human being.
"Study basic logic"… what a laugh. Cunts like you set womens' rights back a year every time you hit 'Save' on an article, marginalizing legitimate and fair-minded feminists (yes, they exist!) by spewing your non-sensical bleating out loudly and often enough that some fools actually begin to take you seriously.
16th November 2010 at 12:20 pm | permalink |Both partners in a consensual sexual relationship are equally responsible for the result of it. Both have a right to voice their opinion on what should happen with a resulting pregnancy. But because there's only two parties involved, there needs to be a way to make a decision if those two parties don't agree.
Given that the person who loses the most (finances, education, quality of life, career etc) from the birth of a child is the mother. The person for whom the stakes are higher gets the deciding vote. It's pretty simple.
Yes, you might not like it if you end up having to pay child support. But that's the risk you take when having sex. If you don't want to end up with a love child, the solution is pretty simple.
Instead of hurling around insults like a 10 year old, how about you provide some support for your apparent assertion that the opinion of the father should supersede that of the mother.
16th November 2010 at 5:54 pm | permalink |@TooBad: Exercising my right to control what happens to my own body is "ripping away" your reproductive responsibility, is it? Really? The only way I can think of for a woman could take away a man's responsibility for his own reproductive behavior is to pull the old, "Don't worry honey, I'm on birth control. Never mind the condom," trick.
However, since you seem to think a woman's uterus should be put in reproductive escrow the minute you stick your dick in her, I strongly suggest you interview potential sexual conquests as to their position on the abortion issue… That way you can make sure to only ever risk knocking up an anti-abortion partner, and you'll never have to worry about missing out on your responsibility for helping with medical expenses and paying child support.
Oh, and yeah. It IS the woman's body that does all the work with the whole "making a baby" thing, which is what matters here. No matter how much you whine about the "IT'S MY BODDYYYYY" argument, you still don't magically earn the right to tell any woman what she must or must not do with HER body. You know why? BECAUSE IT'S HER FUCKING BODY, YOU SELF-CENTERED MORON. If you can't understand why a human being should have the absolute moral and legal right to control what happens to their own body, good christ you are too fucked in the head to bother arguing with any more.
@grimbles: Goodness, you are much more civil about all of this than I am.
16th November 2010 at 6:55 pm | permalink |I've discovered it can be fun to be painfully reasonable and just let people make dicks of themselves.
Though, of course, it invariably doesn't last, because the stupid gets too much and something snaps.
http://bothkindsofpolitics.org/?p=1737&cpage=1#comments
17th November 2010 at 4:57 am | permalink |That's one of the better examples from my blog. I was about to talk about how amazing it was that someone as insane as this run for federal office, but then I remembered Sharon Angle. But still. Loco.
" it's not a choice it's a human snuff " Murder Mayhem. I personally helped a woman terminate her unborn fetis thirty years ago. Later she gave birth to two wonderful children and we have watched them grow up to be wonder adults. then I had a more liberal outlook on abortion. Today, I do believe that once the union of sperm and egg fully forms a functioning human embyro with a brain and heartbeat that terminating him or her is cold blooded Murder. Abortion not a right. What I don't agree with is the Government Control of an issue which must be decided by the Mother. All you have to do is let go and let Nature. We are not much more advanced than primates when procreating. It is sad to think that a beautiful living breathing loving child will not be born because of selfish intentions.
21st November 2010 at 4:09 pm | permalink |All you have to do is let go and let Nature.
21st November 2010 at 4:45 pm | permalink |Really? Nature is going to provide parenting classes & support for an unprepared teen mother? Nature is going to provide a place to live for a woman whose boyfriend kicks her out, or a girl whose parents disown her, when he/they find out she's pregnant? Nature is going to provide extra income for a woman who can't afford to raise the baby? Is Nature responsible for the medical care needed by babies born with severe birth defects, and anger management classes for parents who would otherwise become abusive? No, "let go and let Nature" really doesn't cut it in real life, I'm afraid. Sure, it'd be great if it did, but that's not the way the world works.
Childbirth is instinctive and learned behavior. What species must have Parenting Classes? That is a lame excuse. In my world humans are able to grow, learn and adapt to situations in life. We must stop looking to blame others and take responsibility. Accepting responsibity for ones actions is called maturing. Someone who is old enough to reproduce will learn this real fast if they become pregnant. Mother Nature is a Woman! She gives us Life. What you choose to do with it is called freewill. Family and Friends are important relations to have in society whether it be Chimps or Humans. Sometimes you can't make on your own.
22nd November 2010 at 3:43 am | permalink |@ popmartian: You said, "Childbirth is instinctive and learned behavior. What species must have Parenting Classes? That is a lame excuse. In my world humans are able to grow, learn and adapt to situations in life."
If you're talking about basic survival, a la "Circle of Life" and survival of the fittest, you may have an argument. On the other hand, if you're talking about succeeding in a civilized, ordered society where surviving requires more than just basic hunter/gatherer skills, then you're living in a fantasy-land.
When did an elephant or a lion ever apply for a job or a lease on an apartment? When did a zebra or a wildebeest ever open a checking account or get a GED? Human beings are fairly unique in that we have an interdependent society based on something much more complex than surviving to see the next day.
On the other hand, humanity is in no danger of extinction, while multiple species of wildlife are on the verge of extinction because of the human population explosion. If we "let Nature" do its thing and continue to give in to our baser instincts, we run the very real risk of wiping out species after species.
All the so-called potentiality of a human life is nothing more than projection of some imagined fiction or ultimate goal. Will that imagined life cure cancer or the common cold? Unravel the riddle of gravity and dark matter? Figure out how to travel through space and time? Or will that life just be a person of mundane existence? Become a serial killer? Become someone that beats his wife and/or precious children? Maybe that imagined life will become a homeless junkie that you'll pass on the street?
22nd November 2010 at 7:19 am | permalink |What makes you Happy? People or Things. The reason Life is so complicated for some is they are too wrapped up in science and technology. We must Adapt to this new world order because we live in a material world. Some have a relationship with and love things. technology can make you a slave to one who control it. One example is Mass Communications. You can be banned and censored for speaking or writing your opinion whether by the FCC or the Webmaster. Like Frank Zappa Wrote, "Do you love it, do you hate it, there it is the way you made it." We Must all surrender to a Higher Power, Some choose the Machine others Creator of this Universe. Happiness and Serenity is the path you travel through life, not a destination.
22nd November 2010 at 8:05 am | permalink |…what?
No really, what the fuck?
Are you some kind of AI that picks a few words from a post and constructs a random sentence vaguely related to such? Despite decades of personal experience, I still find it hard to believe that people can make so little sense.
22nd November 2010 at 7:46 pm | permalink |@grimbles: I was trying to think of what to say and all I could think of was, "What the fuck planet are you living on?!"
"Someone who is old enough to reproduce will learn this real fast if they become pregnant."
Right. So a 12 year old is supposed to "instinctively" know how to be a good mother? Fuck you and the nonexistent Pollyanna planet you live on. I'm living in the real world where everything doesn't work in the most ideal way possible.
Some day maybe you'll meet a 12 or 13 year old girl who's pregnant because she was raped. Then you can tell her all about how adults instinctively know how to treat kids properly, and how she needs to just "let go and let Nature." I'm sure that'll make everything better.
In the mean time, most of us are trying to figure out how to make the best of an imperfect world. Wish you knew how to teleport all of us to your imaginary utopia.
23rd November 2010 at 1:08 am | permalink |